In early mammalian embryogenesis, a shift from non-canonical histone H3 lysine 4 trimethylation (H3K4me3) linked to transcriptional repression to canonical H3K4me3 indicating active promoters occurs during zygotic genome activation (ZGA). However, the mechanisms and roles of these H3K4me3 states in embryogenesis remain poorly understood. Our research reveals that the histone methyltransferase MLL2 is responsible for installing H3K4me3 (both non-canonical and canonical) in totipotent embryos, while a transition to SETD1A/B-deposited H3K4me3 occurs in pluripotent embryos. Interestingly, MLL2-mediated H3K4me3 operates independently of transcription, fostering a relaxed chromatin state conducive to totipotency rather than directly influencing transcription. Conversely, SETD1A/B-mediated H3K4me3, which depends on transcription, is crucial for facilitating expression of genes essential for pluripotency and pre-implantation development. Our findings highlight the role of the H3K4me3 transition, mediated by an MLL2-to-SETD1A/B relay mechanism, in the regulation of transition from totipotency to pluripotency during early embryogenesis.